Ok...No....For Real!

OK....

I wrote a blog entry about friends....and what happens to the friend after a tragedy. I had one friend in particular that
I was concerned about, and apparently the reality is ...unbeknownst to me...we were probably never really friends. Shocked are you Me too! LOL
But that's the Way the cookie crumbles. I did not know it until I was told that "yea Good friends.. No...Probably not friends.” Oh I was there for broken hearts, first apartments, lights-on, lights off, can you loan me this, engagements, sex n the city premieres, house purchases, condo purchases, booty calls, job frustrations, marriages, babies being born, sex n the city finale, promotions, no promotions, new cars, and everything else that life has to offer...But maybe I was just doing that.... but not really because I wanted to... confused yet... Me too...No...For Real!

Wow!! These Kids are like Sponges.....

"VENTI HOT CHOCOLATE W/AN EXTRA WHIP SPLASH......STRAIGHT UP"!

Cashmere Mafia v/s Terry Cloth Playgroup

Love, Love, LOVE that friggin show. Obviously, it is fulfilling a little of the jones for Sex n The City but It may just hit the spot for me. You know, I have often (no really) wondered what my life would be like if I made the big leap to ol' New York, New York. I make the joke with my sis all the time that in my other life I am a boutique buyer/owner and stylist to the stars in New Yawk City!!! Attending parties, and premieres and owning a lovely piece of property on Madison Avenue (smirk) and shopping for clients and creating the latest looks. Don't you love that??? But, can you have it all? The reason I started this blog is because of my pure sugary sweetness...Henderson. Can you have that life and your sugary sweetness? I mean I am a power player in my own "suburbian school district" right and I love the thrill of the next move; but it is very taxing. Balancing your profressional life with your personal life and trying to be a home-run hitter on both teams. IT'S EXHAUSTING!!! But what would I do without the chase. My mother, the original Wonder Woman, did it all. She was the mom that made thumb drop cookies, green bean casserole, and attended field trips and still made an incredible impact in her career that changed many peoples lives. And did it with style, grace and a great collection of Ellen Tracy suits! (LOL)

Sample some Sugary Goodness......


Oh and I interviewed for a new job today (no lie) More to come....

Friends....How many of us have them? LOL

This of course is the hardest time of my life; I can't imagine that it gets much worse than this. So, what do you "expect" people to do....What are the expectations of your family, your friends, your co-workers? Traumatic life experiences help you to see all sides of people you interact with. Its' one thing to have someone say "Call me if you need anything." Its' another thing to have that person show up...and DO. My grief counselor asked me what could Jonathan do for me? Did I know? I don't have a map for the things I want him to do; I just want him to DO IT!! When you see me dragging, rent a movie, say something funny, put a hot dog in your ear. I don't know----but as someone who cares about me --JUST DO IT! I know that Jonathan does the best he can and often times he is at a lost for what to do. I can be sitting as normal as possible and then coiled into a ball of drudgery in 5 seconds flat. So, I actually sympathize with the fella....But I get warm and fuzzy to know that he does what he can and the best that he knows how.

So, do you expect something different from your friends. I've got a few categories of friends. Those that consistently call, if not every day, no more than 2 days go by without a "check-up." This warms my soul and it helps to know that during your day, you think about me and maybe if I am struggling your phone call can put off the inevitable break down just a few more minutes. The Friend that just comes over...I was in the neighborhood (when you know they were not) and thought I would stop by- just to see you, to look in your eyes --then they hit you with, LETS GO SHOPPING! Gotta love that friend. Then there is the "friend" that does NOTHING. What is that? Who is that? Why is that? better yet, Is that o.k.? Do you still consider them a "friend?" Besides wondering, what the hell? Do you still keep this person on the christmas card list, when you haven't heard from them in over a month, not a phone call, no email, not even a Buzz on IM. I know that death is hard for all involved, and peoples reactions are different...but DAMN!!! Can I get a friend ettiquette book and try to figure this whole thing out...better yet....I don't have time, the next break down is on the way.

For now, I don't know if I still consider them a friend, For now, I can't DEAL with their issues...For now, I don't know if I can call them - FRIEND.